I used to believe that fame was something to aspire to – probably as many kids, especially girls. I wanted to become an actress, singer, even a politician once. As you grow older you start understanding things better and seeing things ‘clearer’. Life isn’t – or shouldn’t be – about money (which is probably one of the most attractive features of fame). As long as you have enough to cope, that’s all you need. There are more important things in life that really matter, like, the things that make you happy. Great if being an actor or the like makes you happy and also gets you by. However, with it comes the ‘risk’ of becoming famous and this has certain drawbacks: No more ‘everyday life’ as you’d imagine it, going shopping in your local supermarket might become a nightmare, paparazzi hunting you down, people wanting autographs all the time. The list goes on. That’s probably, next to money, the second best and worst aspect of fame: being admired by lots of people.
But WHY do people often get excited when they meet a star? (Here comes my hypothesis, not scientifically (dis)proven!)
Falling in love and being in love with someone has a lot to do with hormones and neurotransmitters (see this article). When you’re in love you get excited about seeing your special one. Similarly, VIPs cause this kind of physical and thus emotional response. I would say that admiring a star is some kind of affection. What people often see in stars is ‘an ideal partner’ or even an ‘ideal self’ (someone they’d wish to be) which may cause the feeling of that basic attraction you have at first for someone you like without knowing them well. Only that with a VIP it will probably remain on this ‘basic attraction-level’ and not move on to ‘real love’ as you don’t really get to know them any better.
Why then are most groupies in their teens? Adults have ‘contactless contact’ with starts too and fall in love with people.
Well, when you’re young you live more ‘in your head’ than when you’re older. As I said before, you start seeing that these ‘stars’ are just people too, so when you watch a movie with Johnny Depp you don’t just see the person on the screen but you’re able to grasp the human being behind the picture on the wall as well, which makes him human. And no human on earth is flawless, so why should Johnny Depp be any better than the guy next door?
Yet, since we don’t really get to ‘see’ Johnny Depp in real life and it’s nice to picture a ‘perfect guy’ from time to time, it’s also not uncommon for ‘grown-ups’ to go like ‘AAAH Johnny Depp’ when they spot him. But less likely as, while the little-I inside would certainly do so, the grown-up-I would pull themselves together and just smilingly shrug their shoulders.
I actually just recently met a ‘VIP’ in my field of study – I was very excited about it and ended up having a very good conversation with him. Afterwards I told a friend and showed him the photograph of me and that VIP, saying ‘WOOP got a photo with him’. My (guy) friend smiled sceptically and meant ‘I think that’s a girl-thing’. Maybe it is. From the ‘outside’ at least. Don’t we all know that males aren’t quite that open about their feelings…😉